Libido

Libido was introduced by Sigmund Freud to explain human behavior and the conflicts of human society clashing with inner desires of sexual nature. It has grown to explain the degree of sexual arousal of one person. The loss of libido is the decrease in sexual desire.

Libido is not always the same, women’s libido is affected by ovulation. When progesterone levels are disrupted the sex drive in women also changes all this is perfectly healthy and natural.

In men, testosterone regulates libido. If testosterone becomes deficient, men will be affected mentally and physically, he will be depressed, anxious and irritable. Because there is no way to determine testosterone is low, he will blame outside causes. Testosterone will have a direct effect on man’s libido and his ability to achieve erections.

When there is no more sexual appetite this can produce disputes in marriages that can lead to divorce, some couples feel the absence of sex in the marriage is an indicator there is no more love in the relationship. Couples need good communication to survive the decrease in libido over a prolonged period of time. An additional problem is the partner affected with lesser libido will avoid caresses and intimate physical contact, fearing the stimulation will lead to sex. The body is very responsive and orgasms can be achieved even with low libido once the body is set to response. Because response has to be gradual, the couple has to be patient and receive caresses even if not in the mood. After some months the stimulation will gradually bring back the desire. Communication and acts of love need to be demonstrated during this difficult period. If libido is not restored, it is important never to loose physical contact.

There is no real cure for lack of libido, but the search for an aphrodisiac is always present. Some studies have determined some positive effects on ginseng, as it acts as a mild stimulant, much like coffee. In laboratory animals the sexual increase when administered ginseng give hope for a true aphrodisiac that will increase libido.

The African tree bark yohimbine has also lead to some clues, as animals administered yohimbine did increase their sexual activity.

Spanish fly is also said to increase the libido, made of dried beetle remains it rushes blood to the sex organs, but is highly poisonous, can burn the mouth, the throat and lead to genitourinary infections.

The greatest libido enhancer is the mind, so let the fantasies flow and the feelings fly free, and the experience of passion and desire will revive the libido.